As for our acting out teens - they raged and acted out even more for a while, but the youngest two, although still smoking pot a few times a day - have ceased raging and have become affectionate and helpful. Yesterday they cooked me the most wonderful birthday dinner and set up the dining room filled with flowers and my grandmother's table cloth for dinner. They are also open to counselling and are actively doing what they have to in order to get back into alternative school now and regular school in the fall. One has also gone back to her rugby team. So, I have some hope for them. Another is so into her addiction that even though she has big plans, I don't see them happening for a long time. The 4th has un-diagnosed mental health issues that are not going to get her anywhere either but she is 19 so an adult where we live and we can no longer influence her life. She is living with us for now, but that will have to end soon.
My wonderful 18 year son continues to be wonderful and he has matured beyond his years in the last two months. Some people grow and strengthen from life's cruelty while others do the opposite. I am so proud that he has the capacity to grow.
I don't know how we will manage the next few months. I do know that I am encouraged and delighted by the changes in my two youngest, and I will pray for the other two. I add all of you in prayers as well. I will miss you.